I don't know the first real thing about the dating game. I don't know how to talk to a specific person and connect. I just think you have to go to person by person and do the best you can with people in general.
If you like to have fun and consider yourself to be spontaneous yet are also responsible and mature, things are off to a great start.
Immature love says: "I love you because I need you". Mature love says "I need you because I love you".