I don't know the first real thing about the dating game. I don't know how to talk to a specific person and connect. I just think you have to go to person by person and do the best you can with people in general.
Intelligent, sweet, down-to-earth and adventurous. Bonus points if you're a little bit quirky.
Good-looking individuals are treated better than homely ones in virtually every social situation, from dating to trial by jury.