I've started dating a really cool lady who I get on so well with. We've been on a few dates now but haven't slept together yet although we started to get more intimate with each other. The other day, I went to her place and we sat cuddling in front of the TV when she hit me with it. She told me she has herpes and that it wasn't anything for me to worry about as it isn't contagious unless she is having an attack. I don't know much about herpes other than it's an STD. My initial reaction was pretty calm and laid back but our semi-intimate evening was cut short as I went home thinking about my relationship with her. Since then, I feel differently about her and I don't know what to do. Have you dated someone with herpes before? If you have, is there anything I should do or be looking out for etc.? Some of my friends have told me that it shouldn't be a problem as long as we use protection but I'm a bit frightened as I know that once you get it, it's with you for life. I've probably dated someone with herpes before but because they didn't tell me about it, I was none the wiser. I admire and respect her honesty.
I feel differently towards her now and I also feel really bad. She's the sweetest woman I've ever met and my heart is in pieces. We get on so well and before I found out about this, I was convinced we were going places as a couple. I don't want to ruin my chances with a woman I'm dating who could be the love of my life but at the same time, I don't want to live in fear of catching something that I don't want. Another part of me thinks that if I did get herpes, then both of us would be in the same situation and there wouldn't be a problem, except I really don't know what does it actually does to you. If there's anyone out there reading this who can relate, I'd love to hear back from you.
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Written by: Sam
From: United States,
Posted: 2019-09-25 08:57:26
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Comment/reply from: Former member, Location, Undisclosed
Posted: 2019-12-04 21:49:10
Its all personal choice but i personally would not be bothered about it. All Herpes is that every seven years or so it causes a cold sore on the lips which after a couple of weeks or so it goes.You can contract it by simply kissing.There are no illness/flu like symptoms just a cold sore on the lip.
Comment/reply from: JamesPrater, United States, Delaplaine
Posted: 2020-02-24 12:54:18
Hey man......I got herpes from a one night stand.....and I can't even tell I have them...it affects my life none.....depending on what kind she has....
Comment/reply from: GregUK, United Kingdom, Glasgow
Posted: 2020-07-26 19:08:30
My wife has Herpes and told me before the first time we had s*x. I was like "yeah whatever, I probably carry it too". I've never had any symptoms, she gets the occasional v*ginal sore so it affects her, but not me. Will probably be the same for you, but I'm not an expert. Ultimately if you want to be with her forever, as I did, it won't matter. If it's just a casual thing, then you may not want to catch it, because you'll become a carrier and infect other women. And they won't thank you for it cause its' painful.
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