I sleep with strange men in hotels

I've always been very s*xually active ever since I was an early teenager. I'm now 34 and even more s*xually active. Some people have described my insatiable behaviour as something I need help with so I'm hoping I can get some advice from someone here and hopefully hear from others who share a similar problem with me.

I’m a professional female and I stay in hotels a lot

I'm a single woman working in bespoke software development. I have a great job that I love and I earn a relatively good salary. I don't have children but I am unable to have them. I travel a lot for work and have kept a dark secret for some time. I enjoy meeting strange men in hotels for s*x. It's something that really turns me on. Hotels are a great environment to do what I enjoy. It's not something I organise though. The encounters are spontaneous and that's what makes them exciting for me. Staying in hotels allows me to keep my normal life detached from my s*xually fetish if I can call it that. A lot men in hotels are usually traveling for business too and are alone, away from their partners. I prey on these men so I can have s*x with them. Obviously I need to be attracted to them so I don't just go for anyone, but if I see a guy at the bar who I think looks cute enough, I'll flirt with him with the intention of bedding him by the end of the evening. It's just so easy to do this in hotels.

Married men are the easiest targets. I'm very open with them by telling them my expectations. The way I see it, if they're married, they are the ones cheating on their partners not me. I don't have an issue with this.

I've had so many encounters like this over the years that each encounter is now becoming less meaningful. It's as if the encounters are routine for me now but I still really enjoy them. When I first started sleeping with strange men in hotels, I'd have a good recollection of memories that aroused me for some time afterwards but these days, I don't seem to have those memories any longer.

Having spoken to a psychologist about this, I was told that my behaviour had desensitised me from the experiences and that I needed to try and change the setting of my s*xual behaviour. I tried this but I found I couldn't get aroused. For some reason, I enjoy doing what I do in hotels and nowhere else. I've been guilty of staying in hotels on my own time in the past just to get the thrill and rush that I get when I meet that stranger. It's like an addiction. Hotels have something about them that just makes it so exciting.

How can I resolve this?

I would like to ask if anyone else has ever had a similar problem? And if so, what did they do to try and resolve it? I'm sure a lot of people reading this might be wondering, what's the problem if I'm doing something I enjoy so much… Well, there are several problems really. Firstly, I'm concerned that I'll catch an STI. I always insist that the guys I sleep with in the hotels use protection but there's still a risk. Secondly, I don't want this to be the only way I can get aroused. All my friends are in long term relationships and ultimately that's somewhere I'd like to be but I couldn't do it at the moment as I admit that I'd end up cheating on someone just to do what I enjoy doing.

My arousal trigger seems to be hotels because there are beds available and the beds are comfortable, the rooms are warm and the men are usually very smart looking. Please do not judge me by calling me names. I sleep with men in hotels because I enjoy it and the men I sleep with are consenting adults like me. I don't need to be called names just because some people may disagree with what I do. I would like to eventually settle down in a monogamous relationship but I need to understand why I do what I do first.

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Written by: Melissa C
From: United Kingdom,
Posted: 2019-05-26 22:30:58

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Comment/reply from: Cassey Quiin, Jamaica,
Posted: 2019-06-11 03:07:45

You should be very careful in terms of having done it with a stranger, I, myself encounter this when I met someone from a hotel bar, and do the thing with him, but I first protect myself by wearing Vag's c*nd*m, and I ask him to wash before we make it :) Safety first, I suggest.

Comment/reply from: westaustine, United States, Central Bridge
Posted: 2019-06-18 09:20:15

it's just your psychology that is at work why not try having s*x in the car, sitting room, shower, your bedroom or a guy's bedroom with newer male friends your orientation will change. it takes 3 weeks that is 21 days to develop or leave a habit

Comment/reply from: Shanewales, United Kingdom, Blackwood
Posted: 2019-07-14 18:55:20

Hi there. A very common issue I would imagine. The first step to resolving this issue is to get in touch with me. I'll talk you through the next steps from there.

Comment/reply from: Lucy T, United States,
Posted: 2019-07-14 20:18:20

I had to laugh at the comment from Shanewales! So like Shanewales, how exactly are you proposing helping her? Hunny, I think you need professional help. It really isn't right to be doing what you do. Spiritually it can't be good for you and one day, you'll get a dreaded STD for sure. You sound like a decent soul and I hope you can sort this out quickly.

Comment/reply from: Sam, United Kingdom,
Posted: 2019-07-29 10:35:33

I have to say, reading your post is quite sickening. I think it's totally disgusting that you do what you do. It's the reason why diseases are spread and that there is so much infidelity in the world. You should go to a spiritual church and find out the reasons why you do what you do. You clearly need help and until you get it, you'll never change your ways.

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