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Written by: Emma H
From: United Kingdom,
Posted: 2013-07-03 09:46:04
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Comment/reply from: ShapeShifter, South Africa, Midrand
Posted: 2013-07-28 19:23:03
Some time ago, the sites were not so much of a con - yes, if you wanted to contact people, you had to become a paid member, but originally, and still now, you get to chat with people, and you could sneakily include contact information - on some sites on pain of being temporarily banned - but this has mostly changed now, and for the past few years these "Sex sites in a box", all running off the same basic logic, has proliferated.
Strangely enough, in the same time, the porn pay sites have been rendered largely irrelevant by the rise of sites that offer totally free shared porn - a quick search turns up a lot of these - and like the dating sites, the words "Join for free" are a dead giveaway that the site is anything but free - and you do not get to understand this until after you have wasted your time filling out interminable forms to register.
This site is a pleasant change - I wish it well.
Comment/reply from: asimeou, United Kingdom, Twickenham
Posted: 2013-07-28 19:32:40
I totally agree with Shape Shifter. People need to understand the differences between phrases like “join for free” or “sign up for free” and “free to use”. I have come across a few other sites that use the words “completely free” but don’t specify which part of the site is completely free. The worst ones are those which are free to use but request payment to communicate with other members. How on earth is that free? The service is non-functional if you can’t actually communicate with someone. It's just false advertising and a big con. So thank you Flirthut for actually being one of the honest ones.
Comment/reply from: Coolio, United Kingdom,
Posted: 2014-02-14 17:25:19
I’ve just had a similar experience and I’m actually stepping out of the whole online dating scene to be honest. I joined Match and I’m really peed off about how they run their service. Even if you are a paid member which I was, you don’t know if other members are paid members so you could be messaging them without even knowing whether they’ll ever get your message or not. Total rubbish and bad system just designed to make money. Match can go and stick it up their a**ses as far as I’m concerned. I’m going back to the old fashion way of meeting people outside.
Comment/reply from: Former member, Location, Undisclosed
Posted: 2015-09-03 15:19:10
Hi Emma, Thanks for your post. I went previously to some sites which are not known as adult dating sites, but in fact are not very far away from it - meaning I had to pay for membership to be able to send/receive messages and for sure there have been a lot faked messages from even more faked profiles. On the other hand I met also real women with whom I could start sending emails outside the dating site and even had cam chats with a few of them. I would say it's most likely not the place to find a partner for life (although the Asian dating site I used had most female members (if real or not) saying that they would look for a life-time partner). I think it depends a lot on what you / man are looking for. If the first email from a girl was a naked pic I knew it wasn't worth continuing it, but if it takes ten messages to receive a picture of the woman it is different. I was usually looking for erotic chats and although it took often quite long time, I could find it sometimes. I agree with you that if you look for love adult sites are the wrong domain, but I believe that it's rather unlikely to find love online. I might be old fashioned, but I still believe that love is something I rather find in the real world. Happy to continue talking with you about this - if you or anyone else is interested. Cheers, Sansibah
Comment/reply from: Mariale, Colombia,
Posted: 2017-01-03 19:53:05
Hi there, I feel a bit sad for hearing your unfortunate experience with dating sites (and specially because you've spent money on dating sites that you were not actually benefiting from as you were not looking for men). However, I have to share that my experience on dating sites (both free and paid) has been amazing most of the times. I was not one of those women you describe as "no way on earth any of those women are real" - I consider very pretty and I would not mind sending the first line asking some guy out for drinks or dinner. I have some tips and have also read about different dating sites that I'd love to share with you if interested. Let me know :) Cheers! Mariale
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