Help - have I ruined my chances and messed things up?

Posted by Heather
- Dec 31, 2012 @09:12

I met a great guy online. I think he could be the one but we are both newly divorced and have decided to be sex friends for the time being. I have screwed up twice and drunk texted him and drunk called him. It’s not just content but quantity of texts and calls made. He forgave me the first time and I think he has this time as well - I hope. I have been extremely apologetic and he knows i am going through a tough transition and so is he. I have removed his number out of my phone so it doesn’t happen again but I hope it’s not too late. I like to talk to him every day and he usually replies but he doesn’t initiate. I am sure if i give him a chance to initiate he would, at least I hope. I am wondering if I just need to lay low and give him a chance, he will contact me but how long do i wait to know whether or not he is still interested or if I blew my chances? I text him sober last night me:"r u mad or working" - him:"neither" - me:"miss u and hope to c u soon. Kinda weird u arent coming over to c me but i will think that over." - him:"quit thinking". I am completely confused by his responses and how to take them. I compliment him and always call him sweet face, beautiful eyes. I also tell him how much I would love to have his body on mine and talk sexy to him. First night I met him we drank coffee and talked and he opened up to me about his life and how he did some real embarrassing things when his wife left. We had sex that night. Have I done too much to him to screw up our chances of this friend sex thing and possibly moving to a relationship or can I save it?

Comments

asimeou
United Kingdom, Twickenham
- Posted Dec 31, 2012 @09:20
Maybe you’re trying to hard? I would let things develop naturally through time and not try to rush a relationship with anyone. Take it a day at a time and don’t get too upset or emotional if he doesn’t respond in a way you are expecting. Remember, the guy is different to what your mind perceives him to be so his responses will be different to what you expect. If he is interested in you, things will evolve. You may even find as they do that you lose interest in him. It takes time to establish a good relationship with someone and I would take it slow.
SexyHunter
United States, Grafton
- Posted Jan 15, 2013 @20:57
Your chances were ruined when you said 'sex friends'. This is a guy that will stay and have sex with you until he actually finds someone who he is willing to date all the while he may even be having sex with other women. It's mid January and you posted this at the end of last year. If he is not dating you by now then he will not take your wanting-a-relationship sincerely. If he is dating then that means he can at least be committed to something other than his p*nis but you do have to be careful of cheating. You have to be sure this is the guy you want and for the right reasons if you want to stay with him. Otherwise continue your FwB arrangement until you do find someone better.
FLAREMAG
United States, Kissimmee
- Posted Feb 14, 2013 @08:41
It depends on the guy. If he is opening up to you still after all the sex, then there's definitely a chance to save it. This is just my opinion, but you may be trying too hard. He sounds like he's usually busy with work but finds time for you whether it's sex related or not. He also sounds like he won't make the first move, so I suggest you ask him out. It's not weird, just uncommon.
Dreamlinerr
United States, Springfield
- Posted Mar 06, 2013 @17:20
You decided to be sex friends and now you want a life long relationship as if you were in love. This doesn't happen. You should have well defined your relation. You are getting obsessed with him none like obsession, it's a sickness. He is scared of your instability and foremost thing is you couldn't handle his 'NO'. Try to take 'NO' gracefully, and not personally. It seems you have a very tall ego.

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