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Online dating has been steadily growing now for many years particularly with people who are having to work longer hours and are finding less time to socialise and meet people outside. Dating online can be very effective and statistics are showing that more and more people are getting married with partners they have met online. The dating world can raise all sorts of questions and our forum is here to try and help make it a little easier to ask them. For dating tips, please visit our dating tips section to make your online dating experience more satisfying.

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  More woman than I could possibly handle

Many years ago (before internet dating), following a 'Personal ad.,' I secured a blind date via the telephone with breathless Linda who I suspected of working out at the time I called, but she said not. We agreed to meet at a restaurant. Our meeting was somewhat surprising as, by Linda's own admission, she weighed thirty two stones (203 kg.). She asked if I minded her weight? Of course I replied 'No.' Anyway, I had not taken a klaxton and trainers with me, and what harm could her weight do? ... read more →

Posted by: Former member
Location unknown,
Posted: 2019-01-27 23:34:53

  why do "nice guys" finish last?

I am a 100% straight guy, an only parent of 2 kids and I have been a widower for 6 years. I've also been alone for that 6 years. I have been branded as a "nice guy" many times, which feels like a curse, because, even though they say they do, women just dont want a nice guy. So, what do women want? An egotistical asshole that treats them like shit? Why?! So how should I treat women? I'm sick of being so lonely & depressed, and just want to find a lasting relationship. Also, where should i try to... read more →

Posted by: JR
United States,
Posted: 2019-01-01 11:19:10

  Real men

Can a girl ever find true love and not get heart broken? Is there really true men out there? Can true love always last forever?... read more →

Posted by: Laraphill
United States, Cambridge
Posted: 2019-01-01 11:13:17

  2 fetish related questions

Hi, I'm a 39 year old STRAIGHT man, only parent of 2 kids, and a lonely widower the past 6 years. I also have a fetish that i discovered in my early teens. I love wearing satin panties. My wife was ok with it, and at times encouraged it, because seeing me in panties made her hot and horny, but now that she's no longer with us, I wonder how do other women feel about guys who wear panties? Would you date a guy in panties? If not, why not? The other question I have is why is it that since I only fe... read more →

Posted by: JR
United States,
Posted: 2018-12-31 23:09:55

  Married women, Why?

I'm 31, I have a thing for older married women. Normally they understand I'm not looking for a relationship, just some fun whether a one or reoccurring but at no point a relationship. Recently, a woman I'd been seeing for a while said she was leaving her husband and family because she was in love and wanted to start to get serious. I very clearly told her that wasn't our agreement and she should stay with her husband. She's still leaving him. Not sure what to do.... read more →

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United Kingdom,
Posted: 2018-11-25 23:58:03

  Am I too nice to guys I like?

I have tried online dating. I try to be friendly, nice and am really straight forward. Like I guess females aren't supposed to be like that? Every time I'm completely straightforward telling a guy I like him straight up, I find him attractive, I tell him he's beautiful. 1st guy I talked to I tried to let in every way possible that I was interested in him. We added each other on Facebook and I looked at his feeds. A lot of the stuff was like conservative and I was liking it. And he got mad and as... read more →

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Location, Undisclosed
Posted: 2018-11-07 22:35:03

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  I don't want to break up but I know I have to

What do you need to do...? Look inside yourself and figure out why it is you are attracted to this dirt bag. The problem is not him.. Well, not ALL him.. There is something wrong within you that you would allow someone to completely disrespect you in such a gross manner. The guy is a DIRT BAG. Say that out loud.. Now say it again. Now, the next time you are talking to your friends-say it to them. The guy really is a DIRT BAG. Maybe, after saying this out loud enough times you will come to see th...

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  What to do

Wait.. So tell us again why you are stalking your EX wife.... It sounds like you still have feelings for her, and she has hurt those feelings by expressing her desire to move forward. You know it was not her intent to intentionally hurt you right? She simply wants to move on with her life. Maybe the best times of her life were spent with you, and now that that is over she is just trying to figure out who she is and what she wants out of life. We all only get to live this life ONCE. Do not wa...

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  Crazy woman

You want to know how to define crazy? A person that allows a real nutjob to wreck their lives for.. how long did you say? 12 Years? I think the crazy might be strong in the both of you... Show that you are sane and put that person to the curb-PERMANENTLY. Unless you like having that type of drama in your life? That's the question... If you continue to allow this person to be a part of your life even tough you know she is by your own definition "crazy"... Then you are just as crazy, if not more s...

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  Holiday romance

I disagree with the comment above.. I'm a man.. I can't imagine being a man, having a wonderful experience with you, and NOT trying to set up another adventure with you. If he is not asking, or planning, a meet-up for the two of you.. That's a big red flag. I've heard married men say the exact same things to their girlfriends that he is saying to you.. Whatever you do.. DO NOT mention marriage! I would just casually ask him if he is committed to someone else. If he replies that he is not.. Then ...

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  Am I too nice to guys I like?

Don't change. Be yourself. Anyone can act different from who they are most of the time get what or who they want. Eventually the real them or you will come out. Myself I would be very angry if I were to find out the the person I met wasn't who she seemed to be. I and I suspect most good men have a respect for women who tell it like they feel or see it. I hate being conned. Honesty and confidence is what I always look for. Be yourself anyone who wont except that? You don't need....

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  Should I just give up

We have a saying here: "The last who dies is HOPE" so do never give up! The copy of your soul does exist somewhere in this world. It is only matter of time to find it!...

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  My partner of 3 years has cheated on me. What should...

My boyfriend whet to a party on Saturday night and when I called, a girl answered the phone. I heard my boyfriend shouting in the background to put the phone down. I've never cheated on him and I never would, but we don't see each other all the time as we live about 100 miles apart. I love him so much but he's broken the trust that we had. He has apologised and said it was a first time and it will never happen again. I am confused and I don't know what to do, I need advice and I hate feeling lik... read more →

Posted by: Sadandlonely
United Kingdom,
Posted: 2013-06-27 09:18:36

  20 questions to ask a girl

If you could think of 20 questions to ask a girl, what would they be?... read more →

Posted by: Rox
United States,
Posted: 2012-10-05 22:32:52

  Am I a lesbian?

I haven’t slept with a guy for over 3 years now and a few weeks ago, one of my friends jokingly suggested that I was a lesbian. Joking aside though, I’m a bit concerned as I don’t seem to have much of a drive any more for men. I’ve been on several dates in that time but none of them seem to satisfy me emotionally or mentally. I find guys are really immature and I have far better relationships with my female friends. I’m really worried that I might be lesbian or bisexual. I don’t fantasise about ... read more →

Posted by: jkills
United Kingdom, Luton
Posted: 2012-11-07 20:37:31

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  How long before my new partner can meet my children?

How long should I wait before I introduce a new man to my children? I have two children aged six and three and I have been dating my boyfriend now for a few months. In that time, we've got very close and I am very much in love with him. He knows I have children (he doesn't have any of his own) but he hasn’t seen them yet. We have been dating every weekend but I haven’t been completely sure when to introduce him to my children because I am worried that he may leave me and they may get attached to... read more →

Posted by: Helen B
United Kingdom,
Posted: 2012-10-09 15:31:18

  More woman than I could possibly handle

Many years ago (before internet dating), following a 'Personal ad.,' I secured a blind date via the telephone with breathless Linda who I suspected of working out at the time I called, but she said not. We agreed to meet at a restaurant. Our meeting was somewhat surprising as, by Linda's own admission, she weighed thirty two stones (203 kg.). She asked if I minded her weight? Of course I replied 'No.' Anyway, I had not taken a klaxton and trainers with me, and what harm could her weight do? ... read more →

Posted by: Former member
Location unknown,
Posted: 2019-01-27 23:34:53

  2 fetish related questions

Hi, I'm a 39 year old STRAIGHT man, only parent of 2 kids, and a lonely widower the past 6 years. I also have a fetish that i discovered in my early teens. I love wearing satin panties. My wife was ok with it, and at times encouraged it, because seeing me in panties made her hot and horny, but now that she's no longer with us, I wonder how do other women feel about guys who wear panties? Would you date a guy in panties? If not, why not? The other question I have is why is it that since I only fe... read more →

Posted by: JR
United States,
Posted: 2018-12-31 23:09:55

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