Sometimes it's better to focus on what you have in front of you than focus on all the things you believe you don't have, wondering if something 'better' will come along.
Dating can be scary, and that's a given, especially if you've been through some unpleasant relationships in the past that have traumatized you. You may be suffering from the fear of missing out (FOMO), which is essentially a fear of commitment. How is FOMO preventing you from committing into a relationship?
When you have FOMO, you are always on the lookout for someone better. Even when you are interested in the person in front of you, you keep wondering, maybe there's someone more handsome out there, more successful, mature, and so on.
This condition is further intensified with the ease of finding a date online. You can keep on swiping, one profile after another. You can keep on liking and winking, and hoping to get noticed by someone who looks like your ideal partner.
Add to that the expectations your family has about your potential partner, how ideal relationships are portrayed in films, your ego, the feeling that you deserve someone who can support you financially and make you look better to your friends and family, and your fear of vulnerability.
FOMO can get in your way of finding love. Because you're always wondering if you're missing out on a better partner, you may not be giving someone a real chance, even when you are genuinely interested in that person. When your mind is always somewhere, you are missing out on the chance of getting to know the person in front of you on a deeper, more intimate level.
The truth is, you can't know if you made the right choice until you are living it. So the next time you go on a date, focus on the person in front of you. It will help if you do not look at your phone, wondering if there's someone better out there. Stop comparing with how your ex is doing now, or how your friend seems to be so happy with their current relationship. You know that what you see on social media is rarely what it is, and it is often just a tiny fraction of their reality.
Don't be paralyzed by the "need" to make the right choice. It is difficult to know if the decision is right until after you've made it. What you can only do is to weigh your options carefully. Look inside you, reflect on your identity, and think about what you want.
When you meet someone you are truly interested in, capitalize on that attraction. Give that potential relationship a chance to grow, and stop wondering if there is someone better because it will prevent you from committing.
When you face the fear of commitment and change your mindset, you can find the love you desire.
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Written by Tanya S
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