Can you meet the love of your life on a dating site?

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A lot of people do


Online dating has become much the norm these days. Studies are predicting that a significant proportion of couples will have met through online dating by 2025.

It used to be love at first sight or at least face to face at first sight. But nowadays, a lot of us are finding partners by looking through a library of images and profiles on dating sites like Flirthut. A lot of people ask whether it's possible to meet the love of your life or a soulmate online, and the quick answer to this, from my perspective, is yes.

Is it love or lust?

If you've been single for some time, you're more likely to fall for someone that doesn't necessarily satisfy all your requirements in a partner. While this isn't always an issue, it can influence the long term stability that you might be looking for in a relationship. Because you've been without a committed partner for some time, you're more likely to be satisfied emotionally in the short term. What typically happens is you meet someone who fulfills your physical needs, and this switches off some of the other requirements you may have been searching to find. But you must remember that this switch is short-term. Inevitably, the physical side of a relationship tends to peek very quickly. Soon after, you'll be looking for more because committed relationships aren't just about how physically compatible you both are. That's only one small facet of any long-term relationship.

While love is subjective for many, we can agree that it is a powerful force that keeps people together and happy for as long as it remains. It stands to reason that finding it can take time, patience, and effort. Like anything significant in your life, falling in love doesn't happen regularly, so when it does, it's a memory and experience you'll carry to your grave.

Be proud that you met online

Surprisingly to some, it can still be embarrassing to tell friends and family that you met your life-long partner online. A minority of people still frown at the prospect of anyone meeting their soulmate online, and they can easily dismiss it ever happening.

A good friend of mine met her husband online many years ago and she was nice enough to give me her perspective of meeting a life-long partner online:-

"I met my husband on a dating site, and I would never have imagined that ten years down the line, I'd have a family with him. At that time, internet dating was something you kept very quiet because people assumed you either had problems meeting people face to face or you were just after a quick fling. I'd given up hope meeting anyone in a nightclub or bar because the men I met there were either drunk, attached, or immature."

And my friend makes a good point in her statement. One reason why online dating is so successful these days is that people are serious about having a relationship. Meeting someone in a bar or club is a bad idea for lots of reasons. People are usually out having fun with friends, drinking, and generally in a completely different frame of mind. It's challenging finding out about someone and very easy to fall for someone because of their physical appearance. That's no basis for a life-long relationship. Love needs a lot more than that.

Quick tips to help better your chances of meeting the love of your life online

Make your profile count

One of the most important things to do is ensure you have a great online profile. That means writing enough about you to impress your potential soulmate and having good quality profile pictures that are an accurate reflection of you. You should also periodically search for matches. Don't rely on them coming to you. People are often in a rush, and the love of your life might miss your profile in their search.

Don't settle for anything less than perfect

It can take time to meet that special someone. You might have to go on several dates before you meet them. Don't rush into anything, and trust your instincts. If you have doubts about someone you're dating, it's better to move on early rather than let things drag on. Make a realistic list of all the characteristics and attributes you want your partner to have, but don't be too detailed or you might be searching for a long time.

Be realistic about the situation

It's perfectly normal to go on a date with someone who you are very physically attracted to. Having a fling or two during your pursuit is probably a good idea as it satisfies a significant proportion of your short-term needs, freeing up ones that are more important in the long term. But be realistic if you have short-term relationships. Make sure you both know where your relationship is heading to avoid too much emotional disruption. The last thing you want is to feel bad and emotionally exhausted when your life-long partner could be right around the corner.

The love of your life could be waiting for you on Flirthut. If you're not already a member, come and join us for free. Don't let the chance of a lifetime pass you by.

Written by Andrew S
Dated: 2020-01-06
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