His kids are ruining our relationship

I recently started seeing a new chap, he is funny, witty, smart, intelligent and gorgeous but his kids are so annoying. They are so smug and they hate me and they are ruining our relationship. For example last week I was over at his house and we were watching tv and been with the kids all day, we took them out to a theme park then for dinner and still this wasn't enough they wanted to play games all night until 11pm (i had to sit and watch telly as they said they wanted to play with their dad, not me). Anyway, finally they went to bed and we got some time together and then they came down and said they wanted me to go as I was taking their dad away, I said I wasn't and I wanted to be friends with them, but they said if I stayed they wouldn't speak to daddy tomorrow, so my boyfriend said it was better that I left and he was really sorry but he'd see me next week. It's basically been like this for the past 6 months. The kids are girls and are 7 and 9.

When I was leaving they both looked at me and smirked but he didn't see.

I'm totally into him but I don't think I can cope with those girls. What should I do?

  • Post by: Stressedoutstepmum
  • 2013-11-24 22:40:24

Comments/responses from other people...

Comment/reply from : frankie
Posted : 2013-11-26 08:20:58

Nightmare! I'd get out quick! He'll always choose his kids over you, been there, done it. Good luck, you'll need it.

Comment/reply from : Em - Germany -
Posted : 2013-11-26 22:41:10

Not a great situation but if you take a step back you may find that he realises they are controlling his life. Or maybe offer to take them out and try and bond with them without their dad around. Just an idea.

Comment/reply from : bamisepeters - Nigeria - Ijebu Ode
Posted : 2015-10-31 21:12:33

I am sure by now you will have seen someone who will devote all attention to you even if kid(s) are involved?

Comment/reply from : - New Zealand -
Posted : 2016-09-24 08:25:43

Hello, take advice from a sincere guy that knows how to show a woman respect and dignity. If he truly loved you he would have been more supportive towards you and tell his children to behave and respect you. If you like a decent man that love you unconditionally and treat you with love, respect and dignity then i am sure we can be friends to start with. YOU can not love a man if his children are disrespectful towards you. He is clearly not worth it.

Comment/reply from : MatthewYoung - United States - Central Bridge
Posted : 2018-05-23 08:18:14

Oh, I know your situation. It is very difficult. You really will spend a lot of nerves on fighting these girls, because you are one and they are two. You will not have the patience.