Ladies, I want to ask a question and also put something out there for you to take note of. I spent weeks chatting to girl I thought was amazing on the phone. We met on a dating site and exchanged numbers, then we would chat almost every day on the phone for weeks. I mean, we got on so well. We’d laugh together so much and I can honestly say it felt like she was my soulmate. That is until it all went wrong. We’d shared so many pictures online and on KiK. It even got a bit explicit at times, especially late at night when she’d send an image of her top half wearing just her negligee. I couldn’t wait to meet her, but when I did, I was so shocked and now I feel guilty and disappointed at the same time. My world just came crashing down. We agreed to meet at The Water Table and I was nervous enough as it was, but when I got there, I couldn’t see anyone that resembled who I’d been chatting to. So I nervously walked around slowly looking to see if I could spot her anywhere in the crowd but she wasn’t there – or so I thought. I text her and she responded saying she was sat in a corner so I walk over to where she was describing and from a distance, I spotted a woman that had a very similar face to hers but a completely different physique. I don’t want to offend anyone here by saying this, but she was fat. I have no issues with larger women and I’m not saying they shouldn’t be allowed to date or anything like that, but I just don’t find them remotely attractive. She described herself as very slim and all the pictures of her body that she sent me were clearly not of her. Her face was the same though but it was a totally different body. When she noticed me looking over, she smiled and called out to me but I walked away. She’s been trying to message me ever since but I feel cheated and guilty at the same time. I don’t like what I saw but I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Why would you lie to someone about what your body looks like? Anyhow, I don’t know what to do now. This soulmate of mine is no longer. She obviously knows somethings not right as in her eyes, she was stood up - and I'm ignoring her now. But her desperate attempts at getting my attention are making the whole situation painful for me. Should I just tell her that I don't like her? Isn't that cruel? Please help me - I really don't know what to do. Ignoring her isn't working as she's harassing me now every day.