I feel the need to share this with people as I get very frustrated at how ignorant some men are. I split up with my boyfriend last year because I caught him using some adult dating sites that he’d registered on and I was sure he was cheating on me. However, almost a year later, I can’t help but think I acted irrationally particularly as I found out recently how much of a con most, if not all, of these adult dating sites are. I never actually caught him cheating but the use of these sites was enough for me.
Recently, I decided to do a little experiment. I signed up to some of these adult dating sites as a guy (using my ex's pic) to get the experience from a male perspective and I was shocked at what I found out. Having spent a great deal of cash on my experiment, I left feeling deflated and unenthusiastic. Without mentioning any names as I’m sure the moderators at Flirthut wouldn’t let me say them anyway, I signed up to several of the biggest names in adult dating and I was shocked to find out exactly how they operate. Getting me to sign up was the best bit. I was enticed by offers of free membership, free sign up, free this and that – you get the picture. Well, all of them were definitely FREE to sign up but none of them were FREE to use. First con. Now, I didn’t pay to use the sites initially so I could get a flavour as to how they would attempt to sell me paid membership. Surprisingly, when I first signed up to all the sites, I was inundated with messages from women, winks, presents etc. Not being funny here, but most women wouldn’t be that forward with a complete stranger, particularly a guy. It’s like me running through an office block in a bikini in order to get attention. How many women would actually do that?
Now, on most of the sites, I couldn’t read any of the messages without paying to do so, but I could see the subject lines. Most of the sites also let me view the senders profiles and shock horror, there is no way on earth any of those women are real. They are either computer generated messages or spammers. I’m no prude, I love being intimate as much as any other woman, but guys, please, come on now… If you’re falling for that rubbish then there’s no hope for you. Three of the sites I signed up to (and coincidentally they are three of the biggest), had me viewing my inbox frequently with messages. In the space of a week, I must have received around 50 messages on each site. Anyway, I signed up for a month’s membership with each site and I was even more shocked when I actually read the message content and responded accordingly. Most of the messages were spammers or people asking me to go to other sites and the other ones seemed to be machine generated like “hi, you look very sexy and I’d love to get to know you. Message me back if you want some hot action with me.”. Guys, guys, guys, if you fall for this *hit, I’m sorry, I’d rather be single for the rest of my life. And, not surprisingly, after I had paid for membership, I got NO messages from anyone again. I also didn’t get any responses back to the messages I had sent out. I delved into these sites a bit further and discovered they are all owned by the same company claiming to have millions of members around the world. Yeah right. Millions of artificially generated members and spammers.
So, the lesson to be learnt here is, adult dating sites don’t work. If they have worked for you and you’re reading this, please do share your comments. I’d love to hear from someone, anyone, who has actually benefited from using adult dating sites.