Having never dated and being a virgin at the age of 30, is that something that is a turn off for men? Is holding onto your virginity for the night of the wedding asking for too much? Shouldn't the person you're with see that as a sign of dedication for him, and respect that? Yes, I'm too shy and I don't know how to approach men. Or when men do approach me, or even say hi at a distance, I shy and scurry away.