Do men care how many people a woman has slept with?

I just needed to ask a quick question to the men on here. I have slept with around 80 guys, should I lie to my next boyfriend about my magic number? Does it put men off? What would be the highest figure a man would find acceptable?

  • Post by: Naughtygirl
  • 2013-11-25 20:11:38

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Comment/reply from : Skepto - United Kingdom -
Posted : 2013-11-26 22:41:02


If a girl I was dating has slept with more than 20 guys it would put me off!

Comment/reply from : Mr_Right - United Kingdom - Haverford West
Posted : 2014-01-15 22:55:50


Don't lie about it. If it's not something the guy's into, he has a right to know.

Comment/reply from : Brooklyn1900 - United States - San Antonio
Posted : 2016-07-15 22:33:06


You didn't state your age, but a woman who has slept with 80 men, whatever your age, is considered a "slut" and "an easy lay" by 99.999% of men. A woman like this is not the kind of woman a good man wants to marry. She only attracts sleazy men who just want sex. If that's all you want, fine. Just make sure he wears a condom so you don't get pregnant or get an STD. But you really need to do some serious, honest, introspection about yourself and your issues. Develop a lot more qualities than your appearance and giving men sex. Don't tell any man how many men you have had sex with. A maximum number would probably be 10-15. Even that is high.

Comment/reply from : Stevie62 - United Kingdom - Chester
Posted : 2016-07-29 06:24:00


I personally would say don't lie about it. Some guys are very insecure about what women think of their performance and are they comparing me ,etc. If you enjoyed your self and no harm came of it then it's your past, everybody has a past wether they admit it or not. It sounds to me like you have not met the real man of your life who accepts the real you and loves you for who you are. If you feel you have to lie then you will be lying for the whole relationship and seeing as a relationship is supposed to be based on trust, it won't be and that is not right for anyone. If I met you and you told me the truth then I personally would accept it and expect you to do the same for me.

Comment/reply from : whyknotme - United States - Fort Myers Beach
Posted : 2016-08-04 18:18:45


Hi, it seems to me there a few variables here. Are you talking to the man you might not be able to live without the rest of your natural born life..?? And if so, are the feelings mutual? if the feelings are mutual, it wouldn't matter if you did 800 men or women the night before these feelings were realized. The question wouldn't even cross his mind. If it crossed yours, would it make a difference, even knowing he's yours forever and knowing your the last woman he will ever make love too?

A flat out lie isn't good in any sense. It's especially not a good way to start a relationship. However, a little less than the whole truth isn't necessarily a lie when worded properly and how many people you have slept with certainly is not an appropriate question. This "magic" number isn't any of his business anyway. If this is a prerequisite to dating for him, i bet his mom still tucks him in at night and prepare yourself for judgment day... Everybody has different ideals. It would be pure speculation on my part to say what an acceptable number would be for most men because believe me, i promise you, we are not all the same. In my opinion most men these days aren't men at all in the traditional sense - another topic totally...lol.. Keep the "magic number" to yourself. When you finally got him up against the ropes, he'll realize your probably not a perfect angel, possibly part vixen, and if your sweating, and leaving a claw mark or two, whats his magic number?? Get down...; p

Comment/reply from : 0 - United States - New York
Posted : 2016-10-17 15:23:28


Hi, real M/F couple here who can certainly give you some real advice on this, and not just the lame-o liberal textbook niceties!

Don't ever LIE! That really is just so wrong and it is a real low life thing to ever do and will only ruin a relationship mighty quick. Abe Lincoln was once asked why he was always so brutally honest and why he was known as "Honest Abe". His answer was, "no one can keep up a lie forever". Also, never tell anyone how many people you've slept with either, it's nobody's business except your own and many men are turned off by women who have had many men. No guy ever wants to learn his woman has been used more than the Brooklyn Bridge! So if you are ever asked just say this, "I'm experienced" or "I'm with you and only you now and anyone I've been with is in my past and has nothing to do with you".

We have always been completely honest with one another about everything and it's one thing that has really helped keep us together for 29 years now. We knew how many people we both slept with before we met each other, though it took a while to get him to tell me! lol. I was never with any guy before we got together. I was 16 then. Unfortunately he is two years older and was a singer in rock/metal bands so was a real Himbo and slept with at least 135 women. It did kind of bug me slightly when I had first found out. The good part about it is, besides the fact that he never contracted any STD's, he is really good in bed. And I mean REALLY good.